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Self Doubt & Instagram: 5 Simple Steps To Keepin' It Real

Falling prey to self doubt is a slippery slope in this digital world we live in. I'll be the first to say that I trip and stumble on doubt more often than I'd like to admit in my relationships with my friends, my family, my business, my art and yes, with even with my Instagram account.

If you don't have an Instagram account, or if you've never used it to showcase your art or build your business - you may not relate to this post.  But then again, maybe you will?  Have you ever struggled with the feelings of not being enough or not knowing the right steps to take?  I'll bring it on home in the end - keep reading for more... 

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I keep my Instagram account as up to date and consistent as possible with the hope that if I say the right thing, and post the right photos, that it will garner me a huge following, thousands of likes and hundreds of engaged commenters. 

Seems silly right?  

To leave a something as big as self worth and confidence in my business up to "chance" and the Instagram algorithms IS silly. Not to mention the amount of paid services out there that are created to post nonspecific comments on our behalf so people don't ACTUALLY have to engage with real humans anymore.  (Anyone else tired of the "Want more followers? DM me today!" garbage?)

Growing an engaged following is a big deal because a) there are currently 600 million active users on Instagram so you are bound to find your people and lots of them and b) creating our space as an authority in our niches could lead to some pretty amazing opportunities within our community and worldwide - like getting paid to travel, or free clothing and gifts or getting paid to post shoutouts to other accounts.  There are  countless other positives to building an Instagram following but today I want to address the self doubt that happens in so many of us as we put ourselves out there online - especially as creatives.

What truly gets self doubt all riled up is the comparison to other accounts, other artists, other parents, and other people who seem to have it all figured out.  We often forget these are the highlight reels from their lives because no one wants to actually say they are going through marital issues or breakups because, online, they are one big happy family!! Right?  Or that they may be struggling to find clients because, online, they look smokin' busy and completely booked up! We all have our own daily struggles and triumphs - and it doesn't mean we should be divulging every last detail of the bad stuff - it just means that to remain real and relatable, we may have to explore your story and put it out there.
 
It's a tough facade to keep up once you get going. Which means creating authenticity and trust online is a lot harder than it used to be especially if you are like me, and put way to much effort into creating real posts.
I love to connect with other artists and people online, as opposed to collecting more and more nameless followers to the daily tally and I especially hate the feeling that I need to sell out and conform to generic comments and "follow for follow's" JUST to get people to see my content.  We need to know that we definitely don't have to and in a way, its a disservice to those who do relate to us.

We are more than enough, and as mentioned above - with 600 million active users on Instagram alone, we're bound to make an impression - we just need to be patient and do our work.   Keep showing up and growing as human beings.  It's not about us.
 

Just so we're all clear - the amount of followers, likes and comments you receive are in no direct reflection of who you are, what you do, or how successful you will be.

Here are 5 simple steps to keepin' it real AND still grow your online community via Instagram:,

Step 1) Continue being you, and show up consistently. Use scheduling programs like Later.com to eliviate staring at your phone, wondering what to write every day. Treat your social media like a task at work, but with personality and feeling. Plus - your family will appreciate your attention!

Step 2) Share real, relatable content! Doesn't have to be the worst parts of your life, but sharing lessons or experiences through your story is so powerful in creating meaningful connections.

Step 3) Continue to post what you love regardless if someone double tapped it or not. Don't get caught up in the analytics!! (speaking from experience :P)

Step 4) Do the work, and return to the reason you started sharing in the first place. (It probably wasn't to gain uninterested followers just to get your numbers up)

Step 5) Comment on other posts from other accounts who you love. Be original! Simply saying "nice post!" or "awesome shot!" makes you seem like a robot. Be specific and explain what you relate to or really love about what they are showing. Bonus points if you directly tag them in your comment too!

Above all: Just keep going.

There are always new tips and tricks to learn when marketing your work and ourselves online, but what I know to be true is people want to connect with people.  Its a human instinct to want to find people you match with - so by showing up as you, and me, we can create some pretty powerful connections regardless of where we live in the world.  

Numbers are just numbers - but real support is hard to come by.  Don't let self doubt get in the way of you doing you.
 

xo,
L


You may or may not relate to this post, but there will be others to follow regarding all things I deal with on a daily basis. My world is always changing, but my core feelings remain the same. Add yourself to my email list below to receive more about staying true to you on Instagram and through marketing, nurturing ourselves and our relationships, trials and celebrations to building a business and how to remain as sane as possible through it all. 




 
 

[Personal Post] The Emotional Blueprint To Building Our Own Home

AND WE'RE IN!!
[Nov 21] - We have been living in our new home officially for the past 3 weeks and wow - what a journey it has been...!
This is a post I wrote two months ago while I was right in the thick of it all emotionally but not quite ready to share. I wanted to write it to open the conversations for others in similar situations to mine, or others who are going through big changes. You might find it helpful, or maybe you might be able to relate on another level.. either way - thanks for being here with me.  xo, L

PS. these gorgeous photos were taken by Jeni Stafford in our own "morning-in-the-life"  photography session.  I wanted to be able to remember these days for years to come and photographs are the best way to help those memories stay vivid in our minds.  It was such a pleasure to have Jeni capturing our real life antics!! These photos made me smile and I feel even more thankful for what we have now.


[Sept 6] Building a home we thoughtfully designed and watching it erect from a pile of dirt is pretty incredible.  I am in awe of what we have already accomplished and I know our view of the ocean is one I will never get tired of. (I KNOW! a view!!)  With the kids growing up faster than I can even process, and Riley and I managing to find new ways push each other's buttons every day...

**cough** lighting decisions?! siding colours?! who's turn to bathe the kids in the tiny shower!? Where are all the clean clothes?? **sigh**

...I'm definitely feeling the constant push and pull of life in limbo.

And it's hard.
And it's amazing.  
And it's super difficult to explain how I feel day to day, but here goes.

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Taking on this project for our family and our future definitely came at an emotional price and, at times it felt like a pretty hefty toll.

"What was it like?" I asked numerous wives and women who have gone through their own home building projects before me.
"How did you get a long with your partner?"
"Did you have a hard time making decisions?"
"What was the most stressful part?"
"What was the best part?"
"What would you do differently?"
"How did you manage to remain sane with the kids running around a dangerous job site??"
"How did you remain sane at all??"

I asked over and over and got a wide range of answers, from positive to negative. But mostly, they said to enjoy the process, don't sweat the little things, and to be prepared to be on my own a lot more.  Which seemed all fine and good! I can do that!

What I didn't ask was...

"How did you feel when your relationships changed because you no longer had extra time and attention to put towards them?"
"How did taking on such a full time commitment effect your ability to work through disappointment from others?"  
"How did you manage your own expectations of your family, friends, and work?"
"How did you feel when you had to turn down invitations for camping weekends away, or a casual barbecues on a Saturday afternoons because you had a house to build?"
 "How did you work through your own feelings of doubt and, perhaps, incompetence at times?  

But guess what?

There are no pre-drawn out blueprints or plans to all of this.  If there was a guide on how to handle these changes and my emotions - I would've paid big bucks for it!  I could've asked a million more questions but in the end, there are no right answers.  Trust me, my practical brain has been quite disappointed with the lack of clear answers for anything these days! 

The hardest part about building our beautiful home - has nothing to do with building our home and everything to do with the expectations I have for myself and for others in my life.  I totally understand why some couples and partnerships crumble under the pressures put on each other during construction.  There is an immense amount of understanding and trust needed in order to keep pushing forward every day and the mental strength that it takes to do so often feels overwhelming.

I love the days when everything falls into place effortlessly, and I wince at the days when it feels like nothing is going right and the problems just keep piling up.. But these days are short - and it won't be like this forever. 
Remaining positive and being around those who lift me up has been my saving grace when I have not been able to do it myself.   Maybe it was the house build? Or maybe its just the time in my life when shit like this happens? I don't know for sure.. What I do know for sure is my eyes are open and my tunnel vision has widened.

To end this post, I have to say how grateful and impressed I am with my partner in crime and his crazy attention to detail. He makes building a house seem so easy!  Also, how thankful I am to have the support I have from friends and family close to us, and how privileged we are to be able to say we built this with our own two hands and with the hands of many talented tradespeople.  We did it! And I believe we're better people for it.  
To say I've learned a lot is kind of an understatement.  Thankfully, this year especially, I began to trust in the timing of it all and realize that nothing happens by chance. 

Advice to those on a similar journey, or a journey of major change - TRUST yourself, enjoy the process, allow yourself to feel the highs and lows, and remember why you started in the first place.  You've got all the answers you need.

  
xo,
L




 

Lindyn Williams: Wholehearted Photography Launch Day!!

ITS LAUNCH DAY!!!

... and I am definitely jumping for joy!

My intention for myself through this online launch is to recognize how far I've come in such a short amount of time.  It would only be possible with the support of those who have been on board with me from the beginning, but also to the new support system that is growing with numerous people across the globe.  (Thank you internet!!)  I also wanted to "officially" introduce myself to the photography and entrepreneur worlds.  I have been building my foundation in the backgrounds for a few years, and now I am ready to show what I offer!

So here I am!

In a nutshell, I am a 28 year old mother of two amazing children who are constantly testing my limits, the "wife" to the hardest working yet most particular guy I know, and a woman with a dream of helping others grow themselves, their relationships and their businesses authentically through unique experiences and soul capturing imagery.

I look forward to where this journey will take me, and Im so happy you stopped in to take a look!  

Click around, read, laugh, scan, view - and send me a note if you resonate with anything you see! I love connecting with like minded individuals and fellow photographers too! Also make sure you scroll to the bottom and add your name to my email list to stay in touch with me and any offers or new experiences I have to share :)

** LAUNCH OFFER! **  click to my Women in Business page to see my new Wholehearted Session built for the entrepreneur woman!  I am offering this session at a discounted price until the end of the month and I would love to chat more with you about it to see if it would be a great fit for you and your business.  :)

Please also share with anyone you feel might also love what I am offering!  My business is built strong with referrals and I greatly appreciate every one.

Im going to go shower now.. HAHA!! life of a Mompreneur, amiright? :P

xo
Lindyn